Thursday, July 13, 2006

Honesty Remains Elusive

Well, once again deception has raised it's ugly head. More and more I believe that we are too soon old and too late smart. I am still left to wonder why family members who are "adult", that is over 21, do not have the ability to tell the truth. Last week-end Amanda told us that she "might" be moving nearer her mother. The operative word here is "might". Little did we know that there was no might about it. It was a done deal. We began to feel that she was not being honest about a lot things when she moved in with us after her surgery. We knew she was having money problems. Her Daddy even tried to help her figure out how to handle them. But, she didn't listen and, I don't think she told him the whole story. She was the one that we thought would listen to opinions and reason. I guess we wasted our time. She has apparently decided to dump her life her and go hold her Mother's hand. Her mother is a master manipulator. She has obviously coerced Amanda into not only guilt, but the belief that Amanda's life here is too bad and she needs to come back. So, Amanda has decided to take backward steps. Now her father is completely pissed off and has basically written her off. He has had enough. He's tired of all the deception, laziness, and complete disregard for our family as a whole. We seem to always be the last to find out that we got screwed again. I'm afraid this was the last straw, the last story he will believe. His faith in his daughter has been severely shaken. I don't know if it can be repaired. The broom is about to sweep the tangled webs of deceit out of this family, maybe forever.

4 comments:

PixiePincessMom said...

I know the hurt is fresh & writing her off is what you "feel" like you want to do; but don't. Amanda is still very young; despite how old she is & thinks she is; do try to keep the door open. One day in the future, she just might realize the mistakes she's made & wish to make amends. Please don't let the hurt & anger keep that from never being possible. I've lived with being bitter & angry at family members for so long that it felt like a ton of bricks on my heart at all times. It's not worth it. Yes be angry & hurt now; but don't let it linger for long.

Sending great big {{{HUGS}}}; I know this is a most difficult time & I will pray everything works out in the end.

Lori's Minute said...

Isn't it hard when family acts this way? Sometimes I want to ask "How old are you?" Unfortunately, they do not get it and will not change unless there is divine intervention. Sorry you were the last to know but it is probably because she knew how you would feel abou it. My advice (as if you asked) is to support her decision... that way she can't blame it on you when it fails.

Dr.John said...

Thank you for your comment on my blog. You are now the confused owner of two JC points. The drawing is Monday. All of my family tells the truth except for Pat's former wife.

Angel said...

This is why I no longer communicate with my "family". All they do is lie, gossip and backstab. I guess they never got past highschool.