Tuesday, May 30, 2006

Just the Facts

We are all asked questions by our family,friends,and co-workers. Sometimes it is a simple question, sometimes it is advise they want. It is wise to do this? So many times we are asked for help and advise, but we don't have all the facts. I remember talking to my kids about something or some problem they faced. Frequently, they would discuss something with me and I would advise them or give them an answer based on what they told me. Then later I would find out that they omitted some details that could have changed the answer. This seems to be a common problem with people. Friends confide to others about money, love or other relationships. Do we really need to know that much about someone? The problems encountered today may not have the same answers of ten years ago. Circumstances change. What works for one person may not be the same for someone else. And yet people still assume that it should be the same. Then they are upset when the answer is not the same. Over the years people change. A person makes a decision when they are 21 and ten years later they wonder why they did that. It must be human nature. We frequently try to make others feel sorry for ourselves or our problems and look to blame someone else. He didn't treat you right. I can't get out of this problem. Who made that problem? Did you really need to make that expensive purchase? A great idea today may turn into a problem tomorrow, especially if you don't have all the facts. You may be asking the wrong people for advise, especially if they don't have all the facts. It is amazing how many people jump to conclusions without getting both sides of the story or all the facts. We need the facts, all the facts to make a decision.


Pixie said...

So true. I have a friend who talks constantly about her money problems that I get frustrated. My Mom doesn't give advice; which is probably good but also annoying.